If you’ve watched a lesbian romance movie or read a lesbian romantic novel, you probably get tingly feelings. These feelings may make you feel like you’re in love or that you want to be in love with someone.
These feelings may be a sign that you are a lesbian. However, it is important to note that some people will not accept you if you tell them that you are gay or bisexual.
1. You’ve Kissed a Girl and You Liked It
If you’ve kissed a girl and liked it, then that’s a pretty strong sign that you’re a lesbian. It’s something that most people have experienced at some point or another, and it can be really exciting.
But it’s also important to remember that not every girl is ready for a kiss on the first date. That’s why it’s so important to be patient and let her get to know you a little before making your move.
One of the best ways to find out if she’s ready for a kiss is to watch her body language and mood. If she’s comfortable around you and she’s not shying away from escalating contact, then it’s likely that she’ll be willing to kiss you soon.
2. You Have a Sense of Longing
One of the most exciting and satisfying parts about being in a lesbian relationship is the sense of belonging. This feeling of belonging can come in many forms, but for some it’s all about maintaining your independence and letting go of past traumas to find love and acceptance.
For others, the goal is to learn and grow in the name of love, both with yourself and with others. Whether you are single or in a committed relationship, taking the time to learn about yourself and the other person can be life changing and can help you to understand your own uniqueness and the differences that make you both you.
Using the right tools to make your journey an enjoyable one is crucial and may require the assistance of a trained professional. For example, a licensed psychologist or therapist may be able to recommend the best course of action. Getting to know yourself and the other person can take a little practice, but you may be surprised at how rewarding it can be.
3. You Have a Feeling of Community
A feeling of community is a big deal for many lesbians. It’s easy to see why – you have to be part of something bigger than yourself to get through those times when you feel alone. Having friends to turn to for support and advice is priceless. For some, that may mean going it alone – but for others, the social glue is the glue that holds them together. In the end, it’s all about recognizing that you’re not alone and that there are people who share your values and goals. It may not be the easiest thing to do, but it’s worth the effort. There’s no denying that being part of a lesbian community is a magical experience and it can be as simple as choosing to be there for the right reasons.
4. You Have a Sense of Identity
Identity is an important part of being a person. It includes everything from how we identify with people, to the way we perceive our lives and ourselves. The way we see ourselves affects our sense of belonging to society, and how we want to live in it.
For many people, their gender identity matches up with the sex they were assigned at birth (cisgender), and other individuals may self-identify as being transgender, agender, Two-Spirit, gender queer, non-binary, or gender fluid. Some of these identities are very different from the sex they were assigned at birth, and they can be confusing and difficult to understand.
For those who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender, their sexual orientation and gender identity can be extremely important to their overall sense of identity. For gay men and lesbians, this is much more the case than it is for bisexuals. Among gay men, for example, about half say their sexual orientation is very or extremely important to their identity. Similarly, about half of lesbians feel this is true.