Getting that first kiss can make or break your date-night. It also sends a lot of messages.
In this article, we’ll explore all the different things that can happen leading up to a make-out session, including facial expressions, body language, and conversation. We’ll also discuss what it means if she says no.
1. Body language
A big part of figuring out whether or not your date wants to make out on the first date is reading their body language. If she’s already giving off certain signals, like hunched shoulders or crossed arms, it could be a sign that they’re not interested in getting physical with you.
However, if her body language is relaxed and she’s making eye contact with you frequently, this may be the time to move in for a kiss. It can also be a good signal if she’s already talking about physical intimacy, like how much she enjoys cuddling.
If you’re still not sure if she’s receptive to physical intimacy, try asking her directly. Girls really appreciate directness and will often give clear signals that they’re open to it or not. If she says no, don’t worry–there are other ways to show her that you’re into her, without making out on the first date. For example, you can try giving her a back rub or telling her how great she is.
2. Conversation
A girl who wants to kiss you isn’t going to come out and say, “I want to make out.” You need to know when she’s ready, and that requires listening to her body language. She will give you many signals – eye contact, leaning in closer to you while talking, her body movements and the tone of her voice are all important.
You can also try to flirt with her with little touches – gently touching her arm while talking, or a playful grazing of the top of her head as she sits back in her chair. If she responds with a smile and gives you a “doughy” look, that’s a great sign.
The location of your date can also be a factor. For example, it will be much easier to make out in a private place like her apartment than it will be at a public coffee shop. Be sure to ask her if she wants to move somewhere more intimate before the date ends.
3. Attraction
A good first kiss is a big sign that your date feels attracted to you. They may even make a point to lean in, brush against you or hold your hand while they’re talking.
If you’re sharing details about your favorite TV shows, movie recommendations or all-time favorite books and they take a break from the conversation to lean into you, their body language is telling you that they’re eager for a kiss. They’re letting you know that they’re interested in spending time with you and want to get to know you better.
Conversely, if they only trade a quick peck and don’t come back for more, it could be a sign that they’re not interested in a deeper connection or that chemistry isn’t quite there. If they’re aloof and only care about their own enjoyment, this selfishness is likely to carry over into the bedroom. A generous person will treat you with equal respect and prioritize your enjoyment.
4. Consent
It is important to always be mindful of your date’s comfort level. If they tell you that they don’t want to kiss, don’t force it. They may need a few dates to feel comfortable getting physical, and that is completely fine.
It’s also important to know that consent looks different for everyone. Some people may only be able to give a peck on the cheek or a light smooch. They don’t necessarily mean that they are not into it, but instead they simply need time to build up to a deeper connection.
In the past, some people felt that first-date kisses were slutty. While some of these views still persist, there are many more that have shifted since the #MeToo movement. It is important to remember that the only rule when it comes to dating is treating your date with respect and making sure that everything you do together is consensual. It is also important to remember that if you are not feeling it, don’t push it.