Getting started with kinky sexuality can be daunting. If you’re new to it, avoiding googling the terms you’re interested in will help. However, some terms have complicated names, which can be difficult to understand.
Luckily, websites like Love Uncommon have lists of terms and you can mark them as you learn about them.
Common kinks
One of the most common sexual kinks is to fetishize objects. The fetish is an intense desire to have something touched or manipulated by another person. Fetishes can be purely physical or abstract and can range from the simple to the grotesque.
Common kinks include the use of costumes during sex. The use of costumes can break the monotony of sexual intercourse and is a good way to reach a higher arousal level. Some people also use costumes to role-play, or to take on a different personality. Another popular sexual kink is voyeurism, or the enjoyment of watching other people perform sexual acts.
People who are turned on by the act of watching another person engage in sexual acts can explore virtual sex or dirty talk with a partner. This is a good way to find out more about each other’s kinks and explore how you can turn them on.
Creating a contract for kinky sex
Creating a contract for kinky or BDSM sexual interactions can be a fun and rewarding experience. You can make it as simple as a kink checklist, or as detailed as you need to be. These documents are an important part of the kink community, and you can find many samples online.
A contract can help couples stick to their arrangement by setting out the rules and roles. It also gives the illusion of a legal covenant. While you should not make a contract that is binding on either partner, having the rules in writing can inspire both parties to play their roles with more seriousness.
The contract should specify the process for withdrawing consent. You should not overthink this process. If you don’t want to do something, simply tell your partner. Once you’ve decided on the process, add it to your contract.
Clinical guidelines for kinky sexual therapists
There are many clinical guidelines for kinky sexual therapists. These guidelines are designed to help kinky sexual therapists better understand their patients. Kinky sexualities are varied and complex. Some individuals experience internalized kinkphobia while others struggle with the stigma that comes with sexual orientation. Other kink-related problems include depression, anxiety, stereotyping, and guilt or shame.
As the field has become increasingly accepting of kink and non-monogamy, the number of clinicians working with this group has increased. However, some of these therapists may lack the necessary knowledge and experience. In order to provide effective treatment, clinicians must be knowledgeable about the kink culture and behavior.
A good kink-friendly therapist will not judge you for your kink and is supportive of your exploration. They will be able to create a comfortable environment for you and your kink while addressing the complexities of polyamorous relationships. They will also be able to help you understand the importance of communication and boundary setting while respecting all partners.